A few things I am admitting about myself and trying to come to terms with:

1. I am a perfectionist.  Striving for perfection makes me stagnant.
2. I am an emotional strip miner.  I bond very quickly and explosively to certain people throughout my life to fill some need.  Once that need is met, it can become hard for me to relate.
3. I am afraid of being a nobody.  I do not live up to my image.
4. I am afraid of establishing myself as a single entity.  I always feel lost without having another person’s energy as a compass.
5. I relate to people easiest through understanding and supporting gender roles.  This is called seduction.
6. I am afraid and avoidant of conflict.  This leads to other forces determining outcomes instead of myself.
7. My fantasies and imagination make me complacent.  Visualizing myself doing what I want fulfills me for a period of time, leaving me without ambition to actually accomplish those goals.
8. I have no concept of emotional boundaries.  This is probably the most dangerous thing I’ve ever realized about myself.

PS:  I learned at WordCamp 2007 that if you post lists with an uneven number of items, it unconsciously encourages readers to participate to round out that list for you…

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